Dresses Your Bridesmaids Will Love
You might think it’s impossible, in fact, you might even be rolling your eyes at me right now… but it IS achievable! I know every bride does set out to achieve something amazing, but it’s tough. You’re trying to find something that looks good on everyone, doesn’t cost a fortune and will compliment your dress/wedding décor. We’ve all been there, the bride sets out with amazing intentions. But then you have one bridesmaid that’s “no strapless” and another “empire waist PLEASE” and so on and so on. As the bride, it’s super overwhelming. Of course, you WANT your girls to feel and look their best, but once you get into the store you have so many options and opinions, sometimes you’re stuck just choosing something that matches your theme and letting all the other factors just fall away.
The amazing thing is, there are SO many options now. You don’t have to settle!
As I started pinning my ideas for bridesmaids, I noticed I kept falling in love with mix-matched styles. My sister, Pietra, who’s been in a lot of wedding/has a lot of friends who has gone through this, shared with me that sometimes it can almost be trickier when a bride says “here is the shade, order whatever you want!” It adds a lot of pressure to the girls and sometimes the end result isn’t as cohesive as you may have thought.
So with that option not seeming too realistic for me who has a LOT of opinions about clothes (hahaha INNOCENT!), I set out to find the perfect dresses for each girl. I really did. I will admit I spent about 15 hours doing this. You may not need to spend this much time, but I did struggle because I used ASOS as a resource and I’d like a style and then realize it wasn’t available in the size for the girl I had in mind. So it sent me back to the drawing board. Also, when you have 11 bridesmaids, time can add up quickly. If you’re a normal person with 4-5 bridesmaids, this wouldn’t take you long at all!
I made a lot of collages on my phone to get a pretty good idea of what the dresses would look like all together. In fact, I did not see them together until the day of. I worked with each girl and sent them the idea of what I had in mind for them. Ultimately, I put them in control. If available, we would order the dress up front and each girl would try the style on. I’ll be honest, most girls fell in love right away, I only had a few that the fit or style didn’t highlight the best parts of their body so we switched out for something else! I made sure to ask the girls, do you feel comfortable? Can you dance? If you wore this today, would you feel confident?
The bridesmaid dresses were a combination of online purchases and orders from bridal stores, I wasn't able to do a big group thing at once because not everyone lived close by. I kept track of each dress purchase – and ultimately ended up dividing the total by 11. This way, each girl paid the exact amount per dress, even though the range of what they paid up front may have varied.
I ended up using the color scheme as inspiration through the rest of the event. I’m all about mix and match colors, materials, textures, etc. so it allowed me to use a variety of colors throughout the décor – more on that later!
When it came to jewelry, hair, shoes and makeup, I really left that up to each individual girl. I know from personal experience, if you don’t feel comfortable you don’t look comfortable and that translates to photos and your entire vibe about the night. As much as it isn’t about the bridesmaids, it should be! I wanted to look and feel my best and I wanted that to radiate through the photos – why wouldn’t I want the same for my girls!?? If you’re looking for more of a cohesive look, this may be something you want to step in on. But ultimately, I’m so glad each girl got to put their own style on how they interpreted the dress.
All in all, the best advice I can give you, is as a bride, do what feels right to you. There are no rules anymore, look for what you love and if you can, try to make your bridesmaids be a part of that too!
Local boutiques used:
Dress Your Fancy - Greene, NY
Spybaby Bridal - Syracuse, NY
Photos by Jaylim Photography